Drunk as he could be. That wouldn't let her do such and suchall things in the end that weren't good for her daughter to do, one way of looking at it. In the garden He said, My soul is exceeding sorrowful, even unto death (Matthew 26:38). Honest! Isnt it reasonable to think that Abe is trying a little too hard, and might be overcompensating for something? Gag. But since youre not, Im bowing out this year. Teach Me to Walk in the Light - Mother's Day Song Why is that or is that just in my ward? to hear my little kids sing and for my older kids to pass out a flower. She was a wonderful example for motherhood, womanhood, and peoplehood. Through this ordinance, Church members renew the covenants they made with God when they were baptized. The perfect sacrament meeting talk? I have suggested the donate-money-to-the-shelter thing for about four years now; it gets a blank stare, followed by a startled, oh! By There was nothing you could do that would ever make you feel like she didnt love you, but she always told you the truth about your behavior and was not afraid to be entirely real with you even when you wanted to lie to yourself. each year when I plan the Mother's Day sacrament meeting I feel an extra bit of pressure to make it special for our wives and mothers. Why do *we* have to have an ideal? I am aware of a seminary/institute teacher who is apparently of the firm and unshakeable belief that a pile of pizza must be provided each week without fail. Kind of it takes a village/ward to raise a child philosophy. Even now, 4 years after her passing, I miss her. Sacrament Meeting - The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints In preparation for the sacrament each week, Church members take time to examine their lives and repent of sins. me) before deciding on these speakers. Thank you for writing this blog post. There are diabetic men, arent there? Being there with my son was very nice. Ann (#76), Im sorry to hear about your mothers passing. Although, I hate how as a single man, some married women run from me cause they think Im going to try to seduce them or something. God still loves her, and her life still had value and meaningTHE END!! could have had us all come to earth as adults, but instead we came as infants needing 24 hour care to survive; there must be something we need to learn from being dependent on parents, and 4) share some motherhood quotes. (did I mention he and his wife were not parents yet?). MD really is a no-win. Yesterday I enjoyed another Mother's Day sacrament meeting, typical with its children's songs, a talk from a young man about how wonderful mothers are, a talk from a sister about how wonderful women are, and a tearful talk from a brother about all the incredible mothers in his life. Sabbath Day Scriptures Scripture References Doctrine and Covenants 59:9-12 Scripture Study Resources Topical Guide, "Assembly for Worship" rockpond It was both simple and profound. We all do., The relationship between mothers and daughters is at the heart of this talk from Elder Ballard. He also discussed the importance of placing motherhood first in our lives but not allowing the pressures of motherhood to sap us of joy. #109 Rayloved the roller coaster quote on motherhood. Thats the last thing a mother needs, responsibility for yet another living thing. The Primary president asked him, as Chorister, to write a new song for the kids to sing in sacrament meeting on Mother's Day. Forgive me for not understanding the blessing part of it. The men work. . And chocolate. Yeah. Ere the sun goes down. Ere the sun goes down: So, yeah, how irritated the host is with the comments is pretty much it. Even men who are on diets. I meant an ideal not an idea! anon, pretty sure hearing about an old guys non-existent sex life is worse. I just pray that the spirit can convey the message that seems so exciting in my heart. I cant quite relate that to Motherhood but maybe he will. So no one is left out. It is awkward for those who are NOT mothers and I don't think fathers get their due comparibly. Maybe. Elder Ballard lists three ways mothers can do that; first, is realizing joy comes in moments, second is to not overschedule children, and third, to find time to cultivate talents and interests.. End of rant. Which also makes me wonder about why we Americans dont recognize International Womens Day. Mark did as well in his postminus the saccharine and accent. I still dont understand it, which is probably why Im still very nervous about having kids. Elder Perry uses personal stories and memories of his own mother to illustrate the importance of teaching the gospel inside the home. A friend once proposed a thought experiment. Since I believe he (the Father) and my Heavenly Mother are probably equals, Id say we know a lot about her as well! Oh, great. 22 What do you think when you see a used car lot with a sign like this: Honest Abes Used Cars! I think its the best way to go. I only wish my daughter could come in for graduation I am sure we would skip church together that morning! :( Everyone can just disregard parts that may sound harshor disregard the comment altogether I reckon. Nuts. The only Mothers Day event for another church Im aware of is when a friend told me that in her church the main talk is always about Christ no matter what holiday it is, but when its just the women the speaker will focus on motherhood and Christs teaching about mothers. She was not worthy of any review from me. My wife and I were not in his ward to hear the talk, but he told us about it later. It was a very honest list, but emphasized that the things she would change had nothing to do with looking good, acting a certain way, or different callings. The third tells of a mother who helped her daughter with a disability at a temple dedication. However, the restored gospel is true and is a steady guide for us in nagivating the oftimes foggy seas of life. So He can be ideal AND real. She is buried in the same plot as my great-grandmother as well so it was nice to be able to be there with them again. We should not celebrate anything unless it is universally acknowledged around the world. What is the trigger to close the thread? Well, I wont bore you with all the mediocre talks over the years, I will just tell you that the best song for MD from the primary children was Armies of Helaman. But one thing is for sure, Ill be drawing on much of this. But I certainly enjoyed the beauty of the whole situation and was very glad to see so many young peole in the Church on Sunday. I like the post. Someone explain this. Set them up outside the chapel, or in the kitchen or sometime. It hasnt yet. I dont know why that would be, unless people are just assuming we ache for something more to nurture. Latter Day Arrangements is a sheet music resource for members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and other Christians. There are sins that need confessing; I actually gave two sacrament meeting talks on Mothers Day during our childless/infertile years. We are an outlandishly weird, mixed up bunch of folk. It is based only partially on a professional clergy with access to time-proven messages and more likely on fundamental theological differences. They do not need to be perfect in order to partake of the sacrament, but they should have a spirit of humility and repentance in their hearts. Mormon women are harder on themselves than any other group of ladies I have associated with. Although I have the suspicion that he had an ulterior motive of hoping never to be asked to speak again. What does that say about us as a people? To all of you giving talks, good luck on navigating the mine fields! If it is unique to us, I wonder why we have a corner on the Mothers Day anxiety market. It is even worse when women are so enthused with Father's Day that they want to ignore it completely - as in absolutely not mention it. Its impossible to please everyone. I did this for five years and the sisters seemed to enjoy sitting, chatting, and not having a child demanding a bit of their pie. on Mothers Day and donate it to a womens shelter. Ill be checking back! Last year, I did an arrangement of "I Often Go Walking" for the Primary children and our ward choir to perform together. It can be any of those. And I did use some of the suggestions here. That cost a war pension. One year they handed out Sheri Dews talk Are We Not All Mothers? and I thought that was cool. People seemed to feel good about it but Mark is right about it being a fraught day. Most detested thing, 3rd hour chatting and eating. As a member of our bishopric, I assigned the topics for this weeks talks, all motherhood focused, and I have forwarded your paragraph with Elder Eyrings quote to each of them. Snickers. Alece, its usually when the admins sense that the conversation is no longer productive, or when we dont have time or patience to keep monitoring the thread. That being said, my ward will be nice and quiet next Sunday, one of the joys of the YSA wards. I think this can be especially true for women who feel theyre just holding on. Actually now that I do have children, the primary song Im so glad when Daddy comes home has taken on a new meaning for me. Honoring Fallen Parents: The Fifth Commandment and Romans 3:23 The Fifth Commandment enjoins: "Honor thy father and thy mother." It is not a bad thing and it might be the one day that young mothers will remember and enjoy the most. It is not that women want to be from Venus, but they want to be from Venus five universes beyond our own. I have seen, heard and experienced much of the imperfections, joys and sorrows in life, and know that reaching out for and holding on to the Iron Rod brings souls closer to the ideals with every step. After living with me for almost 17 years, hed better get it right! Sacrament Meetings - The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Ancient Romans and Greeks would celebrate Cybele / Rhea, the mother of the Gods with festivals in the spring time. It is the essence of who we are as women. Kristine, thank you again. Every week they strive to prepare for that sacred ordinance with a broken heart and a contrite spirit (see 3Nephi 9:20). I too am irritated by mother-worshipping in MD talks, but at the same time, I think many Mormon women identify so strongly with being a mother and so many have sacrificed just about everything to focus on that specific role, that they really appreciate a little validation, a little boost of confidence that what theyre doing is significant and has meaning. Nothanks to my back problems got to fly non-stop from Atlanta to Seattle. President Hinckley directly addresses mothers in this talk, commending them for the wonderful thing they have done by becoming mothers, but offering insights on their greatest challenge: to be able to answer the question How well have my children done? with happiness. This is what I need for . Motherhood as a path to choose to be a better disciple of Christ by caring for those Christ loves.feed my sheep, etc.https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2014/04/wanted-hands-and-hearts-to-hasten-the-work?lang=eng. Didnt we predict this? She told us that as a girl, she would sit in her room crying, with big welts on the back of her hands, but now that she was grown up, she understood why her mother did it, and she was grateful, by golly. She never got her kids back and they never forgave her, and she died of some incurable stress induced disease. Mark, This post was positively Uchtdorfian! I found out the hard way after a long list of them declined to give the talk. I was initially surprised he went that way, but I have to say although Ive occasionally heard people say they wish something were did, I heard many complaints every previous year that something was done about what that something was. Sacrament - The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Women are saved in child bearing is good as always. Love your mother, my young sisters. (Just what mothers need on an already stressful day . In honor of Earth Day, you could throw in the topic of Mother Nature also! And Im batting clean up. And he completely meant it too. I too have wrestled with the infertility monster and MD was always a nightmare. I agree with the chocolate, lack of talks, and the third hour refreshments! 2) If your outfit doesnt match, no one who matters will notice. I dont remember terribly well, but at the Episcopal church I attended for a while, I dont think Mothers Day was nearly as emphasized as it is in the LDS church, because its not part of the liturgical calendar. Ugh. There have been one or two General Conference talks in the last couple of years that briefly addressed that situation. I have seen women leave the meeting in tears, and I know others who have learned, through sad experience, that it is best for them to take a break from church on Mothers Day. Seriously, no one is going to be pleased. What does this mean about women? LDS Mother's Day Gift Ideas: Great Gifts for LDS Women Mother's Day Cupcake Flower Card Mother's Day Gift Ideas: 10 Ways to Show Your Love on Mother's Day Mother's Day Chapstick Idea Mother's Day Questionnaire & Gift Idea Mother's Day Gift Idea: Candy Necklaces Mother's Day Treat Tags Mother's Day gift idea: Candy Flower Bouquets Categories But alas, Mother's Day 11 years ago will forever be known as the day I landed face down on the floor of the chapel, on top of my 3-year-old, in the middle of sacrament meeting, with my skirt flung over my head. I am infertile, though I now have three children through adoption. Until I see a longer lasting cease fire, Im staying home MD (with my mother and daughters). Just pass out the chocolates and let all the women go to a park where buckets of KFC, potato salad and slaw are in abundance and/or veggie pizza and cheesecake. They are there, you just have to do a little digging. Crowd-sourcing request each year when I plan the Mother's Day sacrament meeting I feel an extra bit of pressure to make it special for our wives and mothers. I love that song but our ward music coordinator has musical numbers lined up already. Why shouldn't women be those who teach about the glory of god that is woman? He also addressed many different groups of women separately with distinct advice for their situation, including women with small children, older women, and women who never marry. Then it gives them the option to (1) print traditional paper programs, or (2) give members access to a digital version of the program on their phones. It demands that the single day of the year that Mother's are celebrated to a holiday that is solely for adult females and no one else. It falls short when it is not delivered with love, patience, acceptance, humility, an understanding of the limitations of REALITY, and the the Gift of the Holy Ghost. Not at church anyway. However, like you, I thought Fathers Day was a done and done. Today the sacrament is an ordinance in which Church members partake of bread and water in remembrance of Jesus Christ's atoning sacrifice. But I realize others prefer plants. At least half the ward was so embarrassed for her at this point that they looked as if they wanted to crawl under the benches. We like to celebrate mothers in the Church and we like to ignore fatherhood. I have some ideas of speaker topics but I thought I would start a thread for suggestions of topics, scriptures, conference talks, etc that would help make a great Sacrament Meeting that honors Motherhood while also keeping a focus on Christ. at all.. Print out the short questionnaires included in the printable and distribute them to the mothers in your ward a few weeks before Mother's Day. I have had a lot of thoughts about Father's Day because my father passed away on May 23 about a month ago. Ive taken as the Ward Music Chair person and conductor to pick hymns and have a couple special musical numbers, but does anyone have any ideas for a small token we could pass out to the men? . Sisters would come up to me and express that MD was hard for them also for various reasonsone was abused by her mother while another friend had lost a mother she loved as a teenager so cried all day long. Since my husband gets to give 3rd hour had all of the PRI & YW leaders including the YW themselves in RS with homemade lemon cakes from the teacher. This year in our ward we are having a missionary farewell for Mothers Daynot the old kind where the new missionary and all his/her family speak, but the new kind where the new missionary will be given a topic. I can only pray no one will take offense, as I certainly never mean any offense. Reading over those messages, it is hard to come up with any form of consensus other than, everyone has a different opinion. Im sort of hoping that the person before me goes too long and I have to wrap up with my testimony. There are wrongs that need redressing As the son of a mother who was destroyed every Mothers Day, and seeing many similar experiences here, I plan to stick to the Christ-centric meeting next year. Thanks! After a lot of thought and prayer I called two sisters to speak on some of the blessings and also the challenges of raising children in the gospel. I already have felt many of the concerns expressed, and approach this assignment with fear and trembling. I dont know how that worked out for him. Mothers Day for me is when my children and Grandchildren call me.